M Yakub Chowdhury

How not to "not feel better"? 1. Become busy with work. Always keep pen and paper handy to write. A. Plan what to do and how to do in details and in writing, preferably by hand writing. B. Write your experience, story, thoughts, company profile, business plan, services, website content, free websites C. Dont try to be distracted from "not feeling better" by facebook or youtube, because, it has no output in long term. 2. Don't  try to be: A. Kind to unkind person B. Sincere to insincere person C. Selfless to selfish person      Self love, self care is not selfishness.      Self oxygen first before oxygen to other,  even if it is for own kid. 3. Don't expect someone to believe you, even if you are saying the truth. Because there are some people who don't believe anything. It is their habit into their gene. It can't be changed. 4. Don’t expect appreciation from someone, who never appreciates others, rather who always blames others...

My parents had 5 daughters before my birth. They expected a son from the beginning.  They expected a son before the birth of their second, third, forth and fifth daughter.  Their expectation for a son became higher and higher with time. They prayed to Allah for a son. They went to many saints for blessings for a son. They tried all the possible ways to have a son. Infact when I born my parents were old. Even at old age they took child only for the expectation of a son. All my relatives were blaming my mother for not having a son. So her expectation was even higher than everybody for a son. She prayed and cried to Allah for a son to be free from the blame. My elder sisters were not treated well by our relatives because they were daughters. So they also prayed to Allah for a brother so they can be treated well. My relatives were suggesting my father to mary again so that he have more chance to have a son. So he was mentally under pressure. So he was also praying more for a son t...